More and more of your to-do list becomes unchecked until you stop bothering to make one. The dishes tower to the heavens, you eat food out of a box like a garbage animal, you binge on Netflix, you don't go for walks or to the gym or to yoga, you haven't seen anyone (your besties, your spouse, your lover, your family, your kids) much at all due to these modern life crossed conditions leaving you shipwrecked and alone. You haven't been engaging in any activities that please you - going to the farmer's market, making plans to go bowling at midnight, finishing knitting that shawl that you keep picking and putting down, the book you always are too tired to read and your refusal to do anything that doesn't feel safe and familiar has painted you into such a corner that you don't remember what it was like to enjoy your daily life anymore.
Maybe you have a moment now. A project ended, work slowed down, your kids are vaguely self entertaining. What do you do?
1. Cook something. Directly connecting to the food you will be eating grounds you. Selecting the food to make, preparing it and eating it makes you feel like a whole person again. If you don't cook, chose food that is going to nourish your body. If you do cook and you don't know what to do, roast a chicken.
2. Force yourself to be present as much as possible. It's painful, you will be resistant. It is not the familiar smelly damp blanket of distraction you have cocooned yourself into. Stop checking your damn phone because that is some toxic junkie behavior so knock it off. Now.
3. Do something unfamiliar asap. It will break the habit of only doing what's safe and familiar. A new restaurant, a new city to explore, a food you've never eaten, a party you've never gone to, a class you've never taken. Get some new experiences so you don't shrivel up and die inside. Go meet your fellow occultists so you can figure out whose face you actually hate in person.
4. Keep your outer glamour in order. Remember, we are all silently judging each other based on our appearances. The mantra is: You don't have to like it, you just have to do it. Do a few small things daily. Read Entres-Nous. Get a minimalist wardrobe together. Whatever is your thing.
5. Have you treated your glamour magic like a house plant you are intentionally trying to kill? If so, that's not good. Get it back in order. If you want to really kick your own ass, start the New Year, New You Experiment that you swore you would take up but never got past the first three weeks on (I see you).
6. For Lordess sake, do something. Make magic happen. Make the odds be ever in your favor. Remember when you were first learning magic how you were constantly trying to change traffic lights from red to green, trying to get boys to buy you drinks at the bar, trying to magic your way into adventure, trying to manifest the perfect outfit on sale at your favorite store for a twenty or less? Well? What happened? Get back to it.
In Omnia Paratus, Charmers.