When my uncle is in the hospital in ICU last year, it was really difficult for my family for a lot of reasons. a) If he passed, that would leave my cousin fatherless at 19. No one I knew who is part of the "dead dad" club who lost their father around that age came out unscathed. My cousin . . . is troubled would be the kindest way to put it and he has a lot of things working against him. He *just* started to pull himself together a month ago. If my uncle had passed, it would have been a one-way trip down the spiral, hard. All of us in my circle who are part of the Dead Dad Club could see it. (b) For Italians, we're a small family. We're still rocked from losing half of my cousin's family two years ago unexpectedly. We only have (1) baby on that side. It would just . . .make us that much more inconsolable. There's only like 14 of us now total. . .Read the rest here.
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jonquil
2012-08-01 11:45:10
My mother has her Table upon which wedding photos of all close relatives are displayed. When they die, their photo gets moved to the back. My Auntie has a few graves that she visits (small family). Now that my Mother lives in Nebraska close to her, she accompanies. My Dad harbors no sentimentality. When he dies he wishes his remains cremated & scattered over his late mother-in-laws' grave as that is where my Mom will be. We three children are scattered (Ct., NC, Mi.)& aren't able to visit graves. Nor is that a practice I grew up with. I grew up in a military family that liked to move, often. We have photos & stories. I have a wall with photos & names.